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Growth in Giving



One thing I have learned and observed over the years is the more I hold on to things, the less I have. I think this applies to material things just as much as to less tangible possessions such as skills and talents. By giving away some of myself and what I have, it seems I am more open to blessings and growth. It also reduces my attachment to my present circumstances.

A clenched fist, holding on tight to whatever it holds, may not lose the object in its possession, but neither can it receive anything. Too often, we hold on so tightly to what we have and know that we simultaneously prevent ourselves from something even better.

Giving can shift our entire mentality and perspective, allowing us to see things in a different light. When we detach from the circumstances of the moment, it allows a view of the bigger picture. We can more easily view the road ahead if we are not so caught up in the here and now.

Small or great, giving is a sacrifice. So is investing for the future. Whether it’s saving for retirement through a 401k or investing in one’s self by going back to school, building a business, working out, eating better, or any type of self-development, that type of contribution requires we loosen our grasp on the present for something better in the future.

If you can make sacrificing for others a habit, you will find it easier to sacrifice for yourself. Giving is a tremendous training ground for growth.

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