What Are You Looking For?

Life has a tendency to help you find what you are looking for. If you are looking for reasons to be scared or angry, you will likely find some. If you are seeking an excuse to be bitter or resentful, you’ll find that too. If you are exploring your case to be anxious, you will come across solid evidence. If you are searching for justification to lie, cheat or steal “just this once,” not doubt you will likely come across something to support that decision. If you are looking for proof that the world is out to get you and the odds are stacked against you, you will find that as well. If you are looking to prove you are a victim and helpless, you will likely build a strong case. And no matter how wonderful your spouse is, if you are trying to come up with reasons to be angry with him or her, I’ll bet you can identify at least a few things.

But on the other hand, if you are looking for reasons to be grateful, even if your life is a struggle at the moment, you’ll probably find at least a few. If you are trying to find the good in someone, even if that person makes your life difficult and rubs you the wrong way, eventually you will identify it. If you are pursuing reasons to be joyful and optimistic even in the midst of difficulty, you will likely be able to come up with something. If you are exploring ways to love the unlovable, you’ll discover them. And if you are looking for a “why” that wakes you up every morning with an excitement to serve others and make a difference, I am confident you can uncover that also.

Be careful what you look for in life, because you might just find it.

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