Easy Walk Down the Wrong Road

Often our lives are not derailed by obstacles and roadblocks along the right path, as much as it is by a lack of those challenges along the wrong path. Sometimes the path to where we don’t want to go seems so clear and convenient, that we end up taking it purely out of comfort. It’s not that road we are supposed to be on is so impossibly difficult, it’s just that the compromised road is so much easier!

It’s not that difficult to wake up a few minutes early and make a healthy lunch, it’s just even easier to hit snooze. It’s not a herculean task to get in a run before work, it’s just a lot easier to read the newspaper or check the social media feed instead. It’s not complicated to pull out a good book or find an educational article at the end of a long day, but it’s so much easier to watch some TV. It’s not that hard to write a note of gratitude or appreciation to an important person in your life, but it’s just so easy not to.

When broken down into their smallest components, making the right choices and taking a step towards who and where you want to be is often not that complicated or challenging, it is just that not doing it is always a little more comfortable and convenient.

Don’t get sidetracked by an easy road to where you don’t want to go.

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