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You will always have critics. There will always be people who are watching and waiting for you to fail. There are others who will undermine and criticize your accomplishments. This is especially true if you are pushing beyond the norm and striving for excellence. The higher you climb, the louder the judgement. You will not be able to please everyone.

It’s this fear of the opinions of others (and even just what we think the opinions of others may be) that cause many to never start that journey towards their calling. They are too concerned with what others might think or say if and when they trip and fall. The potential failure seems magnified by the audience sitting on the sidelines. The possible embarrassment becomes amplified in our minds. What will people say if I fail? What will they think of me?

But there is another voice you must be mindful of: your conscience. Your conscience is monitoring your actions and will hold you accountable, not only for what you have done, but also for what you were supposed to do and didn’t. There are people in your life who you will never be able to please. There are others who will accept you at times but ignore you when you need them most. People will come and go, but your conscience will always call out and demand an account. There will be times when you must choose between pleasing the passing critiques or following your conscience. To which voice will you answer?

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