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Trouble Thief

 


Do you ever rob people of their problems? Do you ever try to shoulder someone else’s load without being invited to do so?

I don’t mean situations in which people are genuinely asking for advice and guidance. I am talking about those times when people just vent and complain, seeking to make their problems your problems. And they might not even be trying to hand off their issues. Sometimes we just try to take other’s burdens from them even without being asked for assistance.

In doing so, we effectively try to rob people of their problems. It’s not fair to them and it certainly is not fair to us. It can enable others while disempowering ourselves as we try to “fix” something we cannot control. It poisons your mindset with frustration and helplessness. It is exhausting. 

Each one of us has plenty of our own issues to work on. Let’s not try to rob others of theirs. 


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