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Eviction Notice



To some degree or another, I think we are all guilty of allowing people to rent space inside our head. I’m not talking about the voice of a trusted friend or mentor who holds you accountable and sometimes tells you the hard truth you need to hear. That person can become the “angel on the shoulder” whose advice and influence can keep you from making harmful decisions even when they’re not present to stop you.  No, I’m referring to the negative voices from people who undermine our hopes and dreams, discount our abilities and worth, and riddle our mind with doubt. It’s the people who seem to hold us hostage by their opinions of us. And it’s not that those people are necessarily bad or evil. In fact, they are probably unhealthy and burdened down by their own fears and negativity. I feel bad for those types of people. But that doesn’t mean they get to reserve space in my head and thoughts rent-free.

Consider the people in your life who get to live inside your head. Are they “paying rent” with encouragement and wisdom? Do their voices nurture hope and optimism? Or are they more like squatters: abusing the space and neglecting to pay any rent?

I realize some of those people in your life who spew negativity and doubt may be family members and close friends, so cutting them out of your life may not be an option. But you don’t have to allow their words and opinions to dwell with you. You don’t need to allow them that space inside your head. It might be time for some evictions!

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