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Selfishness



I woke up not really feeling like “bringing it” today. I am concerned about all the little, annoying things that I must get done today and this week. I am worried about all the tasks falling on my shoulders. I am borrowing troubles from my future. I am anxious about presentations and seminars I must prepare and give over the next couple of weeks. I am hung up on me and it’s killing my motivation and resolve. 

I must begin to focus on others, on them, on you. And I don’t just mean you who are reading this. I mean everyone I come in contact this week. I’m referring to the individuals and families I meet with this week who are seeking guidance and direction. It’s everyone at the church I will present to this week looking for encouragement and education. It’s the audience at an event the next day who will be searching for clarity and confidence. It’s my family, looking to me for support and leadership.

It can’t be about me. When I become more focused on myself than on others around me, I start losing and bring them down with me. And even if there’s just one person who needs to hear what I have to say and can find insight or even inspiration in that conversation, then for them alone, I must bring my very best.

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